Three Rules (Redux)

 When it came time, I let go of my two  oldest granddaughters so they could close their eyes, dream big, and work hard to make their dreams come true.

You see, I didn't quite know how to prepare them for a work environment that is so different since I started my 37-year "career" as a full-time employee and contractor: 17 jobs that lasted 6 months to 6 years along with 7 layoffs that lasted 3 to 11 months (see Plan B).

So, first of all, I gave each granddaughter a book on career planning (Do What You Are by Paul Tieger and The Pathfinder by Nicholas Lore).

Then, I wrote a letter based on my experience as words of encouragement to sustain them along the way.

I'm passing on an excerpt of that letter for those who may need the same encouragement:

"I'm giving you a book that I hope will prepare you for the many changes that will occur during your career — some you get to choose, some that will be chosen for you.

Consider the book as a roadmap to navigate those changes. Keep in mind to always consider the words of the author with your own personal experiences (ie, take what you like and leave the rest).

But just as important as the journey is the kind of person you become along the way. Since you were young, I recited my three rules:

• “Please and thank you."
• "You have to listen."
• "You cannot always have your way.”

These three rules will serve as a compass when you go to far off places, and I will know you will be all right.

“Please and thank you.” is a reminder to be respectful of others, and that "No" is a complete sentence (no reason needs to be given).

“You have to listen.” is a reminder  to consider others in your choices and to be accountable to others for your actions.

“You cannot always have your way.” is a reminder that if it is not possible for you to accept people, places, situations, or outcomes for what they are, then it is  probably about "you"  rather than about “them”.

So, with a roadmap and compass in hand, my fondest wish is for you to find a fulfilling career with a meaning,  purpose, and plan."